I intimately understand the depths of CPTSD (complex post-traumatic stress disorder) from childhood sexual trauma--because I lived through it. Imagine growing up in a world where the picture-perfect exterior hides unimaginable pain. From age six to late teens, I was sexually abused--passed around like leftovers, caught in a cycle I couldn't comprehend, and the only one unaware of the cruel reality shaping my life.
As an adult, I appeared to have it all--working for one of the world's top software companies--but inside, I was crumbling. Anxiety, struggles with relationships, flashbacks, and depression. Suicidal ideations became a normal part of life. A therapist once explained that my ACEs (adverse childhood experiences) were off the charts and nearly impossible to address. My brain could no longer suppress the tidal wave of childhood trauma.
At the time, society refused to acknowledge that men--especially Black men could be victims of sexual abuse. The stigma was isolating. Many therapists lacked the tools to help someone with my experiences. So, I embarked on a journey to heal myself.
I immersed myself in every resource I could find, from studying psychology and counseling in graduate school to earning certifications in breakthrough coaching, herbal medicine, trauma-informed courses, leadership development, and clinical hypnotherapy. I even traveled to China to study with monks at the Shaolin temple. Every step was part of a relentless pursuit to overcome the effects of the trauma and reclaim my life.
Healing wasn't just for me. My mother taught me the importance of service, and I knew I couldn't keep what I learned for myself. In 2001, I began leading workshops, retreats, and conferences for male survivors. I produced radio show, podcasts, to amplify their voices, served on the board of 1in6.org, and learned from some of the world's leading male trauma psychologists.
Over time, I discovered that my unique combination of lived experience, education and empathy allowed me to connect deeply with other survivors. The men I worked with began experiencing accelerated healing through my programs and workshops. Years worked through in months.
Today, my mission is clear: to help male survivors rediscover their worth and break free from trauma. I create safe, transformative spaces where men can heal, reclaim their voices, and build fulfilling, authentic lives.
This work isn't just my calling--it's my promise. No one should have to heal alone. Together, we can create a world where survivors don't just survive--they thrive.
